Marriage 101: Never Ever Fight

Fighting can be damaging. It involves emotions. When emotions get involved, you may say harmful things that you really don’t mean to say, and unfortunately what’s done can never be taken back.

Marvin came home drunk one rainy night. On his way upstairs he’s singing his favorite song. He opened the door and found Leah on the bed. He tried to kiss Leah but to his surprise he caught Leah’s hand on his cheek. It drove him angry in that instance. The painful fight lasted for almost an hour leaving Leah with a swollen body.

As much as possible, avoid getting into a heated argument. A fight can easily damage a marital relationship. The fight may start over an unimportant matter and before you both know it, it soon escalates into an exchange of offensive words.

“Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.”"H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

There are four relationship factors:

1. In a marital relationship you tend to be more vulnerable than in any other kind of relationship. As the re

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Getting Married? Start Organizing Now

Hire a professional wedding planner
Deciding on whether or not to use a wedding planner to help you with your ceremony is not a difficult decision; in fact the mitigating factors are fairly straightforward and easy to assess. It is important, however, that you make this assessment very early on in the initial stages of your wedding planning. After all, how useful is a wedding planner after you have already made all of the decisions? In fact the only thing you’re going to want to come up with first is a rough budget that includes a total number of how much you want to spend, as well as estimates about how much of that money you wish to spend on individual categories, such as the caterer, music, the reception hall etc.

Your total budget will largely influence whether or not you choose to hire a wedding planner. In fact this is the first criteria you will use to see whether or not you will be hiring one. To put it simply, if you cannot afford a wedding planner there is no way that

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Cooperation in a Marriage

Our differences can actually be the key to a strong long-term marriage we are aiming for. After some time the man may want more independent activities, like going out with his friends. The woman on the other hand may want more contact with girlfriends.

“The greatest of all faults, I should say, is to be conscious of none.”-Thomas Carlyle

What’s the impact of this on marriage you may ask? Well, one of the main reasons we pick at each other is our conflicting attitude towards marital independence. Nature keeps moving forward in the life cycle. Change is the only permanent thing in this world. As you count the years, you’ll eventually discover each other’s strengths and weaknesses. It is a step-by-step process. It can’t be done in a night or two.

“Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then.”…Katharine Hepburn

These differences can even lead us in a better direction. It may even cause us to make bet







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Marriage and Financial Stress in a Recession

Given the current economic climate of instability, rising unemployment rates, and lay-offs, it is important for spouses to understand and address financial challenges before debt consumes their relationship.

Unlike the Great Depression of the early 1930′s and the 1990′s recession, the majority of Canada’s current household debt has been created by families reaching for credit to finance day-to-day living expenses. According to a 2009 report from the Ottawa-based Vanier Institute of the Family, many Canadian households carry debt loads in the “danger zone.” Further, the accessibility of excessive amounts of credit is allowing couples to finance items, such as plasma televisions and new cars, rather than deferring purchases until they have saved enough money to buy them outright. While new purchases can evoke feelings of excitement and happiness, purchasing on credit does have a price and often a costly one.

While some couples are able to work through money problems

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